Is saying no difficult for you? Are you frustrated because you can’t get others to respect your boundaries? If this happens to you often, you might be a people pleaser.
What is “People Pleasing”?
This term refers to a behaviour where you prioritise the needs of others at the expense of your own, often being unable to set healthy boundaries.
Why Do We Struggle to Say No?
The people pleasing I frequently observe in my clients is a widespread phenomenon in our society. But where exactly does it come from? Here are the two main causes:
1. Our Fears
- Fear of rejection, criticism, or not being liked
- Fear of hurting someone or causing conflict
- Fear of having to justify yourself or face an uncomfortable situation
2. Our Upbringing
Did you grow up hearing things like:
- “You must be nice.”
- “You should always be helpful.”
- “Saying no is rude.”
These messages take deep root in us, and even as adults, they influence how we respond to the expectations of others. You end up believing that:
- You don’t know how to say no.
- Saying no will make you seem like a bad person or selfish.
- Your needs are less important than those of others.
The Consequences of People Pleasing
In the long run, this behaviour can become extremely exhausting. Here are some of the effects you might experience in your life:
- You constantly adapt to please others.
- You feel emotionally and physically drained from giving too much of your energy.
- You struggle to set boundaries without feeling guilty.
How to Break Free from People Pleasing
If you find it hard to set boundaries and prioritise your own needs, I’m here to support you. Together, we will work on freeing you from the constant need for others’ approval and help you create a more fulfilling and authentic life.
Book your free coaching call today to learn how to set healthy boundaries and take back control of your personal power. Click here to schedule your call and take the first step towards a more balanced life, aligned with your deepest desires.
